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吉迪恩的见证

4D offers you a dream. When you don't strike, you buy more.

Gideon, father of 2 adult children, started gambling in his twenties with friends. Beginning recreationally with 4D, he was soon into all kinds of gambling. By 2010, the interest on his debts alone was running at $12,000 a week, largely a result of losing at 4D as well as from the need to maintain his lifestyle.

For a long time, his one hope was to strike it big in 4D, so he could pay off his debts.

I was totally lost. I owed so much. No more car. Nearly no more house and family.
I really wanted to change.
I decided. After 20 years of this of lifestyle. Is enough!

Gideon went to see his MP. And, although he was unable to do anything, the MP's secretary managed to pass Gideon One Hope Centre's (OHC's) helpline number.

OHC helped me a lot. Where got organization like this?

Gideon shares that OHC equipped him with what to do on Day 1. It was the lifeline and handle he had been looking for. He knew the way out. And now that he knew how, and he determinedly and doggedly stuck to "the plan" till he could see the light of day again.

He relates, "Day 1, throw away SIM card. Day 2, daughter and son came down with me (to OHC support group meeting). Day 3, face loan sharks… my debts began to clear."

He estimates that it took him 1 whole year to lose that sense of "feeling lost", and another 6 months to a year to restart with a whole new lifestyle and outlook in life. Working 2 jobs day and night, and with the help of his wife's own earnings, he managed to clear all his debts in 4 years.

Gideon adds, "My relationships with my family improved. Today, I am out of debt and can support my family again. Before, I never paid for anything. Today, I am taking responsibility for my family's expenses. I have never failed to come to OHC meetings these past 8 years! I am a changed man."

Don't come and the chances of relapse is high.

Gideon emphasizes that coming to support group meetings have the effect of reminding him of the past. Remembering the trauma of what happened is important to him, because it helps him resist the urge that comes whenever thoughts of going back to play 4D for fun, return to tempt him every now and then.

He emphatically repeats, "We never met an organization like this. Got seekers, got peer supporters with similar problems, know what to do, how to handle your problem and walk with you? Where got?"

His tips for gamblers wanting to kick the habit go debt free are as follows:

  1. Come to OHC
  2. Care for yourself
  3. Care for family and others
  4. Take responsibility and pay off your debts
  5. Start a new life, learn how to be a person, change your habits.

My life is very comfortable now.

He shares that his wife was very supportive throughout their marriage. She paid for everything and for quite a time, and the family survived on her salary alone. Gideon is very deeply appreciative of her sacrifices and love, working to even help with paying off his debts.

Somewhere along the journey, Gideon shares that he faced some family problems he could not resolve. Although he was a devotee of the god he depended on for his big wins, this time he tried praying to Jesus, quietly and personally, and he says that Jesus answered his prayers "quite fast".

His dream is to keep working on further improving the relationships life brings to him, all around.

亚伦的见证

The hope of winning sustained my gambling habit…

Aron loved football. He also thoroughly enjoyed playing the game online. As a successful young professional with free time on his hands, his football bets, together with 4D and Toto gambling debts snowballed over time, till he was servicing interest payments of over $10,000 a week.

My whole family suffered while helping me pay my debts…

told lies just to get money and borrowed from his family members, relatives and friends. Harassed daily by banks, loan sharks and moneylenders, he found himself unable to focus and struggling with work. Soon, he lost even the job that he had because he defaulted on a $15,000 company loan. To top that off, he also became embroiled in a court case with a former employer over work matters.

Struggling everyday with debt repayments, I hit rock bottom.

Constantly plagued by fear and worry, struggling with the loan sharks after him, Aron lived in agony. His wife looked around for help and called One Hope Centre (OHC). One Saturday night, on 31 January 2015, they came to their first meeting together, looking for a way to resolve his problems.

After my first meeting at OHC, the counselor helped me tackle my debt and loan shark issues...

In addition, ongoing OHC counseling sessions also helped him:

  • Address root problems
  • Learn to manage his struggle and pain
  • Set his priorities right by focusing on sustaining family needs, in spite of his debts, joblessness and ongoing court case
  • Mending broken relationships with family, relatives and friends

To encourage and support him, his wife, young daughter and mother in-law joined the twice-weekly OHC support group meetings.

Here, the peer supporters gave very helpful real time advice that guided him through each week.

OHC was very supportive and did what they could to help till he found a new job some 8 months later.

The dead end of life is God's beginning…

He relates that a message shared by a guest speaker at his first OHC visit, together with the Christian volunteers he met, changed his previously negative perspective of Christianity. He began to believe in God and started to experience a difference in his life.

Although I was still struggling, things began to change. This was the first time I admitted to myself that I had a problem. It was very hard. But I resolved and 'reinforced my mind' not to borrow or gamble again. I faced the fact that my luck won't come back. It just won't happen.I had to walk past Singapore Pools and the moneylenders I used to patronize, on my way to work…

In his new job, Aron had to walk for 30 minutes to reach his office. The trip would take him past these old haunts, forcing him to face his fears and struggles as a daily routine.

Although it was difficult, it was also good because during these walks, his resolve to not yield to temptation and to stop gambling grew.

Aron shares that as he made the walk each day, he would listen to the Bible and reflect on Psalm 23, remembering that even though it felt like walking through the valley of the shadow of death, his "enemies" would not triumph and he could trust God for a turn-around!

I knew I needed to rely on God and prayed for Him to help me. The peace within me increased the more I prayed.

He shares that 6 months into his new job, after having to face his worst fears on a daily basis, the torment, struggles and addiction disappeared.

At the right time…

He says that God's hand on his life and circumstances, from rock bottom to restoration, is unmistakable.

His jobs changes always came at the right time, and always with the blessing of a vital salary increase.

At the right time, an opportunity opened for him and his wife to purchase a new BTO unit at right place, and with the blessing of his in-laws. He calls this his promised land.

And, at the same time, his in-laws managed to secure a unit in the same block and floor as his. This was ideal because it allowed Aron and his family to more easily care for them, being so nearby.

I have the joy and peace of God. I have no more urge to gamble.

Although Aron is still slowly paying back various family members, relatives and friends the money owed to them, the restoration of broken relationships nonetheless has already begun.

He is sure that it was God who led him to OHC to discover, through the support group meetings, that he was not alone. This gave him much strength and hope.

Serving as a volunteer and meeting new seekers every week, reminds him of what he went through, and makes him ever grateful for the freedom he enjoys today.

He attributes his transformation to his family's love and support, especially his wife's, the encouragement and guidance from the OHC family, and most of all the love and grace of God. He looks forward to continuing on this life journey into further restoration, financial wellness and fullness of joy.

My dream is to continue to seek God and rely on Him, to do what He wants me to do, and go where He wants me to go. My life now is all about Him. He will take care of me.

李先生的见证

见证奇迹——赌徒心声

我是个好赌的人,赌超过40年。

2009年12月圣诞节前,我被家人押来一望中心,我因为身负新币近一百万的债务,这包括合法贷款公司;大耳窿;银行;朋友和家人的债。那时抱着必死的心情,谁都救不了我,除非能再借到钱,继续拼搏才能翻本还债。

现在已经是2018年10月,经过这么多年的苦斗,我战胜了一切阻碍,在神的恩典与一望中心的大家庭里,我脱胎换骨的变成一个新造的人,这是神给我见证奇迹的亲身体验,我必须把恩典和经历与你们分享来荣耀祂。

五十年前,那时我才15岁,住在乡下,是一个赌博环境的地方。每逢周六周日,必有人聚赌,逢年过节更不用讲了。赌麻将;十二支;四支配等等。所谓时势造英雄,我羡慕那些同龄人放弃上学而去做工的同乡人,他们有钱可以赌得很大,有钱买电单车和汽车,而我中四后也跟上潮流。

我的运气特好,学做建筑工,没有多久,因为我天性聪明,学习能力特强,捉摸不久,就自己承包工程了。所谓承包,是以较高价拿工程,再分包给低价的工人去完成工程。由于当时的天时地利,做什么就能赚什么,很快的有了车;有了些钱,跟着同乡人进了马场,也去更大的赌场博杀了。

1980年,我国经济突飞猛进,建筑业非常的红火,需要很多的外劳,我也同时做起引进外劳的生意。当时的泰国;印度,孟加拉工人给我们中介费,每个工人可以收到两千元,扣除费用,还有一千元利润。到了1990年开放中国市场,中介可以收取更高的中介费,我的最高纪录,每月可以引进超过1000人,所赚到的钱更多了,同行朋友的引诱,除了生意需要经常出国公干之外,我也去澳门、云顶、澳洲、拉斯维加斯和世界各地的赌场赌博,钱来的太容易,输了也不后悔,不害怕,继续努力做生意,继续拼命去赌博。

所谓"人无千日好,花无百日红,",没有永远的好运气,经济也不是永远每年都好,由于我的豪赌,加上浪费时间在世界各地拼杀,加上1986及1998年全世界经济大萧条,我几次勉强举债过关,变卖家产来过日子。1980年初期,我的建筑公司拥有超过2000名工人,由于无心经营,管理不当最终破产收场。

在2009年中我已欠下大量非法贷款公司的钱,我的孩子把公司的几十万资金全部给我去还债。但他一边帮我还债,我还是一边再向大耳窿借钱,因为大耳窿知道我有家人帮我还,他们不怕我没钱还 而继续借钱给我,结果公司的储备金全用完了而我的债务还是天一样高。

最后一次的家庭会议中,我坦白承认我还欠总共25万。我孩子再向银行贷款给我还债。我的孩子今天去找债主还钱并交代不能再借我了,但是隔天他们还是把钱存到我的户口而当时的我已经完全失去理智,一心只想赚回本钱还给我孩子,就在3个月内,我又欠了将近100万元。当时想死,唯有死才能一了百了。最后债主找上门,我一一坦诚承认这笔庞大的数目,我全家4个孩子都无能为力了,我告诉他们我只有两条路,一条路是死,另一条是跑路才能解决我的问题。

我不知道我最小的女儿去那里拿到"一望中心"的地址,在2009年12月中的一个星期四,带我去求救。当时我满以为一望中心可以借一笔钱先把债还清或是帮我向贷款公司谈判,但后来都不是,而是叫我负起责任自己去面对,辅导员告诉我家人六句话:不离、不弃、不借。当时的我对一望中心是非常生气,如果我能面对,我来这里干嘛,对着这么多人讲我的臭事和忏悔?我非常的绝望,面对家人压力,一次两次的陪伴我去辅导,其中一位弟兄要我学习祷告,他要我诚心向神祷告,主一定会帮助我的。我私底下第一次试试默祷"主啊!我姓李,现在欠下一百万的债务,我走投无路,求主借我一百万还债,我一定会好好重新做人!" 我祷告一次、两次、一个星期、一个月、一点动静都没有。在这期间合法贷款公司上门要债,非法贷款在两个月内在我家泼漆十次,锁门4次,我装了电眼,他们上邻居家又泼了4次,我也别无选择。家人不离不弃的陪我来一望中心。渐渐的我从义工兄弟们学会了面对的道理。我继续祷告,我不求主借钱,我求主赐家里平安,求主给我力量,求主赐我的生意成功。三个月后,上门骚扰的人没有来了,而我的生意开始好转了, 其间我也上教堂,积极参与各种活动。我每天除了上班,有时参加一望中心和教堂的活动,其余的时间我都在家里,有机会与家人好好的沟通,生意所赚来的钱,也好好的规划利用。

我知道戒赌不容易,所以我积极参加中心所主办的戒赌团体课程和其他课程。我也上了一望中心从香港请来的专业老师教导戒赌辅导的课程。两年后我自愿成为一望中心的义工,参加支援小组和其他活动,分享我自己的经历,协助新来的求助者一起走康复的路,因为戒赌是一门没有毕业日期的人生旅程。

最后我非常感谢神赐给我恩典,由一望中心启发我信主重生,也让我找回我幸福的家庭,Home Sweet Home。一人嗜赌,二十个家人和朋友受苦,如果你有赌博习惯,不管是大赌或小赌,回转吧!来一望中心求助,你肯定可以找到精彩有意义的人生。

凯文的见证

基督徒会不会沉迷于赌博?一个基督徒赌徒的见证

可能有些人会认为,小赌怡情,华人新年赌一点联络感情也无所谓,四年赌一次世界杯并没有什么大碍。基督徒赌博,只要不告诉人,就行了,反正神也会原谅我的。这些都是人的错误观念。我也因为没有拒绝这些错误的观念而陷入赌瘾,掉入罪恶的网罗......

我从小就在基督教家庭成长,参加主日学,上中学时我正式洗礼,之后就在教会里服侍。我很爱神,也爱教会,和弟兄姐妹的关系很好。每个星期天都去教会崇拜,从牧师的讲道中也知道很多圣经的真理,也知道贪财是万恶之根,基督徒要弃绝赌博。

可是万万没想到,因我一时的软弱,贪婪驱使我去赌博。刚开始时,我只是买一点万字票和多多。但每当没有中奖的时候,我就会加注希望能连本带利把输掉的钱赢回来。之后我又染上打老虎机,就这样我慢慢的陷入赌瘾。在短短的两年内,我来到一个地步向三家银行贷款,偷家里的钱,向朋友借钱来赌博。我的人生变成借钱还债,偷钱赌博,而债务似乎永远还不完。

当时我的压力非常大,内心非常痛苦、挣扎。我不敢告诉任何人,特别害怕我太太和家人发现。庞大的债务更是让我忧心不已。因为我知道若事情曝光将会导致离婚,甚至家庭破裂。我也很担心若让人知道后会丢耶稣的脸,也害怕自己没脸见人。担心非信徒会怎样看待基督徒?因为当时我还在教会服侍。

我只好自己默默承受这一切的痛苦,为了隐藏我的赌博问题,我常常需要讲骗话来遮盖自己欠钱的事实。过着欺骗人的生活使我非常辛苦。为了掩盖这罪恶,我讲了一个谎言又要用另一个谎言来掩盖,可是回到教会里我又要像天使一般的服侍,这种双面人的生活使我感到非常羞愧。我甚至想,我到底还是基督徒吗?我还配做上帝的儿女吗?路加福音16:13 一个人不能侍奉两个主;不是恶这个爱那个,就是重这个轻那个。你们不能又侍奉神,又侍奉玛门。可是我还是无法摆脱这诱惑。我该怎么办?我心中很彷徨,不知找谁帮助,我当时觉得很孤单。

最终我因无法偿还债务而挪用公款。这事被发现后,我也必须面对法律的责任。当这事情曝光后,教会朋友和一直以来觉得我是好人的朋友们、亲人们每个人都不敢相信这我是这样的一个人。对我的家人来说更是一个沉重的打击,我们在人的面前都抬不起头来。

但感谢神的恩典与怜悯。当我在黑暗痛苦中仍有一道曙光向我照耀。当人拒绝放弃我的时候,神没有放弃我,祂仍旧爱我。祂让我的太太和孩子们支持陪伴我,他们一边陪我一起面对人的攻击及闲言闲语,还和我一起面对债务及法律问题,他们的内心也是多么的痛苦和煎熬,我带给他们的痛苦是无法用言语来形容的。我非常懊悔自己所行的一切,也后悔当初自己陷入赌博时为了顾及自己的面子不敢坦白告诉家人,或向人求助。导致今天这痛苦的局面......

但神的恩典够我用,当我在痛苦深渊中,神带领我来到一望中心。我开始接受一望中心的辅导并参加每周的支援小组。我决定要脱离赌博,赢回家人的信任,回到神的光中,并且努力工作还债,依靠神的话语过得胜的生活。

当我越想脱离赌博的时候,撒旦就给我的引诱也越大。我不是一直看到曾经常买的四个万字号码,就是遇到叫你买马票的人,脑海里也会浮现出今天会中大奖的念头。这样的试探真的是非常可怕。即使这样,我也不要走回头路,神给了我智慧和力量戒赌,开始戒赌的第一个月,我尽量远离卖马票与多多的投注站以免被引诱。我也不向妻子隐瞒我所做的,坦白地将我所面对的困难,压力都告诉她。我发现当我坦诚后,我也得到了真正的自由。

有了家人的支持与鼓励,我很快就走出赌瘾的捆绑,人也轻松了很多。倘若当初一开始,我就把赌博欠债的问题对家人坦白,我就不必走这冤枉路了。在一年半中,我都定时参加一望中心的小组,从新人们的分享和过来人的分享中,我不断地警戒自己不要再被贪念引诱了。主耶稣也给我能力来胜过这诱惑。我知道我不可以自满免得又掉进撒旦的迷惑中。圣经说:你们务要警醒,在真道上站立得稳,要作大丈夫,要刚强。(林前16:13)

我也非常感谢一望中心给予我和我家人的支持与帮助,家人们不离不弃的陪伴也成为我每一天的力量。如今因着神的恩典,我和太太都在一望中心的康复小组服侍,我感到非常感恩也很喜乐。在服侍中,我常常提醒自己不要再走回头路了。

感谢主!我终于脱离赌博,进入神的光明中。

今天,你是否也活在赌博或其他黑暗当中?和我一样为了面子不敢让任何人知道。隐藏在黑暗的洞穴里?还是你以为你可以自己解决问题不需要告诉任何人?又或是认为神爱你,祂不会介意你仍旧活在黑暗中?无论你怎么想,我想以过来人的经验鼓励你,勇敢的去面对你的内心所隐藏的黑暗区,因你隐藏的秘密,总有一天会被显露。圣经路加福音12:2掩盖的事没有不露出来的;隐藏的事没有不被人知道的。你可以勇敢的告诉你的家人、也可以告诉鼓励和帮助你的弟兄姐妹或牧师。你也可以来一望中心寻求帮助,因为在一望中心,有很多前赌徒,他们已经从赌瘾中走出来,并且在那里做义工帮助赌徒们认识赌的危害,他们也愿意听赌徒们的倾诉,而且有专业的辅导员们来帮助。

基督徒是神的儿女,是神呼召来为祂发光的。祂不愿意我们活在罪中,祂为我们的罪死而复活,洗净、赦免我们一切的罪。祂也赐给我们能力能胜过一切的罪。只要我们在自己的错误中悔改转向耶稣,依靠祂;无论我们的情况有多糟,祂都能为我们开一条出路。


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